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Wedding Planning Reality Check | BRIDE TO BE READ THIS!!

Right now I have 200+ emails in my inbox screaming at me to open them, 27 unread text messages, and a doctor’s appointment in one hour. The last thing I should be doing is opening up Word Press to write a blog post but there is something too heavy on my heart that I must share.

I am not your typical bride. I think I am a little too realistic and maybe even slightly cynical. I’ve never actually enjoyed my birthday, (this year I cried on my birthday for like two hours), graduation was so anti-climatic, and I have a hard time ever living up to my own expectations. On the other hand, I feel the most loved in the day-to-day mundane normalcies in life, not the big extravagancies. So when it came to planning this wedding – I already accepted the fact that I was going to be disappointed. Depressing, huh? I had a bit of a heart change this morning when I received an email from one of my followers and God really spoke to me.

  

 

In the wedding industry, more money = better wedding but if there is ONE thing I’ve learned in life, it’s that money does NOT buy happiness. To any other bride-to-be’s out there on a budget, we cannot compete with the wedding industry and their ridiculous prices – so we have a couple of options when it comes to planning this shin-dig. You can kick and scream your whole way through the process (which is what I’ve been doing), or you can take a deep breath and remind yourself about what this whole wedding is really about and what brings you the most joy.

For me, I feel joy when I’m near to God and serving Him and others. Why should the most important day in my life be any different? When the focus is all on Dani and Jordan, of course we are going to feel disappointed! WE ARE HUMAN. We sin and we disappoint. God does not. My friend Lauren, from @LaurenKaySims, reminded me that when we feel disappointed it’s because we are longing for something so much greater than ourselves, and that is God.

So rather than stressing about whether the food is good enough or the band is decent, or if people will show up to a Sunday wedding – I think I really need to stick to my budget and have FAITH. I need to submit EVERY little detail to God and have faith that He will lead me and bring me joy on that day. I want to pray more about my expectations at the wedding and I want God to remind me of the ways I can serve other people and Him on that day. Because at the end of the day, my wedding day is not about me and Jordan, it’s about God and the gift of marriage He has given us. There are so many creative ways to bless and serve people and my wedding should be the ultimate reflection of God’s love for us.

When I take a moment to stop and reflect, I see God’s provision in my life so clearly. It’s almost like Dani’s life is a game of monopoly and I can see God grinning and giggling as he’s moving around the pieces and I run around aimlessly. God has always been there whether I chose to acknowledge Him or not. He has blessed me with one HECK of a fiancé who I ADORE, and seriously love and respect more and more everyday. He had blessed me with health and a healthy family. He has given me my DREAM job. He continually loves and sharpens me through my followers on Instagram, blogging, and YouTube and He continues to show me grace when I do not deserve it. God is so good and I love letting him lead me through engagement and marriage.

Ramble done.

xo dani

 

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    Kate
    October 25, 2017 at 6:39 pm

    LOVE THIS! I have been thinking a lot about this lately (I’m 23 and people around me are starting to get engaged and married) and I’ve noticed something. As a high-schooler and even in undergrad just a few short years ago, when I thought of my wedding I thought of the shallow things. My Pinterest boards for “future wedding” were full of flowers and cakes and extravagant details and outdoing other brides and being bigger and better etc. etc. Now, just a few short years later, as I picture my future wedding I think about the love that I want to feel. I think about balling crying during toasts at my rehearsal dinner from my family and friends and my husbands family and friends. I think of dancing the night away with my best friends from high school, college, a study-abroad friends and grad school friends. I think of my husbands friends and family and my own meshing together for a night to celebrate our love. I don’t want people to leave my wedding thinking WOAH how much did they spend on every little detail? but WOAH God is evident and alive in this marraige and it is so obvious that He has blessed them and put them together. A GREAT example of this is Marcus and Kristin on youtube. Their wedding video is INCREDIBLE along with their honeymoon. Talk about put my shallow desires in perspective. The Lord is so alive and evident in their videos. If you haven’t watched their wedding/honeymoon vids go watch now! Dani I can’t imagine all of the pressure that exists in Dallas to be the biggest, the best, etc. but that is worldly pressure, don’t give in! the Lord will deliver so much more to your life and your marriage than one expensive night ever can. <3

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    Katherine
    October 25, 2017 at 7:25 pm

    Thank you for writing this, I needed to hear this so badly today! I too am in the middle of planning a wedding and am feeling stressed and overwhelmed trying to make it all happen on a smaller than average budget. I have felt convicted lately of focusing way too much on throwing a fun party rather than praying that God would use my wedding for His glory and to bring people to know Him. And how silly is it that I’m more worried about if people will like the music than I am about them knowing Jesus?! I’m so glad that you are open about your experience so far, it’s refreshing to hear and it’s nice to feel like someone is right there with you and “gets it”! Xoxo

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    G.S.
    October 25, 2017 at 8:40 pm

    This post really spoke to me. For 2 reasons. I am planning a wedding and I have loved your rants bc it is how I have felt during this process. I can’t keep up with wedding industry. I am at the age where I am seeing my friends get married and the weddings they are having, and I can’t help but compare how my wedding will be nothing like theirs. But I have to learn to stop comparing and accept that the wedding we will have will be perfect for us. Second, is I love Lauren’s blog. She was the first blogger I had ever followed and she is just adorable and real and inspiring. And that was a beautiful quote she sent you. Thank you Dani for your honesty. Keep being you.

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    Lauren Alston
    October 26, 2017 at 11:59 am

    Dani, at 18 I cannot even imagine what you’re going through. I’ve been following you for a while now, so I know you’ll survive and thrive as always! Remember, “I can do all things through Him who strengthens me” Philippians 4:13 🙂
    xx, Lauren | http://www.misslaurenalston.com

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    Kashia
    October 27, 2017 at 4:29 pm

    As a previous bride, I 100% agree with everything you just said. I didn’t get my “dream’ wedding that I always envisioned. But instead of complaining about it, I made do with what I had and focused on what this wedding was really meant to be about. Looking back at it, I don’t regret anything about my wedding. I had one AMAZING mom and mother-in-law who helped with all the planning. My mom literally DIY’ed all of my decorations, save the dates and wedding invitations. She HAND-MADE a removable skirt for my wedding dress! I felt (and still feel) incredibly blessed to have so many people help us out and support us.

    I’m excited to see the rest of your wedding planning journey.

    xoxo

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    Rachel
    November 17, 2017 at 3:24 pm

    Love this post! I am so glad I stumbled upon it–I recently started following you on IG. I wish I had more friends like you who believe in God and trust in Him where I live (it’s very minimal in Cleveland, OH!).
    I feel like it’s just me and my family members that live a true faith-based life and enjoy talking about God and His love for us.
    But I look forward to more IG & Blog posts! I will definitely keep this in the back of my mind when planning my future wedding 🙂

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